When You Thought I wasn't Looking

posted 6 Feb 2015, 03:47 by C S Paul

When You Thought I wasn't Looking
     By Michael Josephson 

Whether you're a manager trying to instill company values in employees, a coach trying to teach positive life skills to athletes, or a parent trying to build good character in your kids, you'll be more effective if you consistently "Teach, Enforce, Advocate, and Model" the desired behavior and attitudes. At Character Counts we use the acronym T.E.A.M. to capture this four-step strategy.

Modeling is not simply demonstrating. It's living and acting with the realization that everything you say and do will either support or undermine your efforts to convey values. Ralph Waldo Emerson highlighted the importance of consistency between words and actions and the futility of the Do-as-I-say-not-as-I-do theory when he said, "What you are thunders so loudly, I can't here what you say to the contrary."

This poem by an unknown author expresses it another way:

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you hang up my first painting on the refrigerator, and I wanted to paint another one.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you feed a stray cat, and I thought it was good to be kind to animals.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you make my favorite cake for me, and I knew little things are special things.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I heard you say a prayer, and I believed there is a God I could always talk to.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I felt you kiss me good night, and I felt loved.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you cared, and I wanted to be everything I could be.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I looked... and I wanted to say thanks for all the things I saw when you thought I wasn't looking.

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